Like most women, I spent most of my life choosing comfort over courage, which resulted in behaviors like blaming, controlling, perfecting, performing, pleasing, and proving.
WE CHOOSE THESE BEHAVIORS BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT TO BE REJECTED. WE WANT TO FIT IN, BE LIKED, AND APPROVED OF. WE DO THESE THINGS BECAUSE IT’S WHAT WE KNOW AND IT’S BECOME COMFORTABLE.
But there comes a time when choosing comfort feels like prison. When we’re squirming in our seats and our minds with a deep knowing that things need to change. Maybe it’s with your work, relationships, activism, or maybe it’s the relationship with yourself. Or, maybe it’s all of those areas.
YOU KNOW YOU NEED...
to have hard conversations but don’t know how. You know you want to say something when you hear things that offend you, but you stay quiet, or if you do muster the courage to speak up, it comes out wrong and you regret it or get angry.
YOU KNOW YOU WANT...
to do more of what makes you happy (instead of what makes everyone else happy), but you either don’t know what makes you happy anymore, or the guilt is too overwhelming to actually take action.
YOU KNOW YOU NEED...
to create better habits in your life. Everyday habits like your lifestyle, as well as the inner habits like changing your self-talk and your core beliefs. But, instead of making it a priority, you continue to just read All The Books and listen to All The Podcasts and don’t take the action necessary to see actual change in your life.
You’ve downloaded so many e-books from experts, read books from self-help authors (maybe even mine), and perhaps even have a board on Pinterest with all your favorite inspirational quotes. But you still can’t seem to make changes that feel big to you.
And... let’s not ignore the gigantic elephant in the room. Our current cultural and political climate has made you angry, confused, helpless, fired up, or all of the above.
You’ve tried other things to fend off that nagging feeling of discomfort—the feeling that something needs to change. Maybe you’ve tried to feel better with excessive work or booze, and even more performing, pleasing, and perfecting. But those old standbys don’t work anymore. You’ve gotten to a point where it’s time to clear the table off and lay a different foundation. One that is truthful. One that is yours. One that is based in courage.
I BELIEVE THAT IN ORDER FOR WOMEN TO MOVE AWAY FROM ALL THE BEHAVIORS THAT DON’T WORK FOR US ANYMORE—TO LAY A STAKE IN THE GROUND AROUND OUR DESIRES AND TO GAIN THE WISDOM TO PRACTICE COURAGE IN OUR LIVES—IS AN ACT OF...
Synonyms: cause a disturbance, cause a commotion, be noisy, run wild, run riot
It’s no secret that we, as women, have been socialized to not make too much noise, to put everyone else before us, and to make everyone else comfortable—all at the expense of our own values, desires, and dreams. Many times we don’t even consciously realize this is happening. But unconsciously we know. It manifests as resentment, poor boundary setting, negative self-talk, people pleasing and approval seeking. And that feels like shit.
It’s our time to rise up. This starts at a grassroots level with you. It starts with you claiming your desires, claiming your voice, and CLAIMING YOUR LIFE.
know exactly what your values are and what they look like in your life, you have a clear picture of what feels good to you, what decisions to make, and how you want your life to be lived. No more flying blind—wondering what the right thing is to do.
set commitments around your everyday habits that are in alignment with the woman you want to be, you feel better mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Plus, you feel proud of who you are.
know how to have those hard conversations and set boundaries, you stand up for yourself and your life. You take a stand instead of letting people treat you like a doormat and take advantage of you.
get clear on what you need to let go of, you create room for what you want and need. And when you know what you need and are open to receiving, you allow things to move through you—things that are trying to come to you that will aid you in being the best version of yourself.
THIS IS YOUR INVITATION TO BE A PART OF A COURSE AND A COMMUNITY OF WOMEN WHO GIVE LOTS OF FUCKS ABOUT THE THINGS THAT MATTER TO THEM THE MOST AND HOW THEY LIVE THEIR LIVES.
RAISE HELL is a 4-month online experience that brings you the essential tools and strategies for your rise. When you’ve gained the awareness of what’s holding you back, you’re ready to take action. And nothing propels action quite like accountability.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
Values Based Hellraising
You can’t move away from behaviors that aren’t serving you anymore if you don’t know where you’re going. Values based hellraising is about knowing what’s important about the way you live your life so that you have a clear vision of how you want to behave in every situation that comes your way. No more flying blind and acting out of knee-jerk reactions, later to regret it. You’ll become fluent in living your life from a place that makes you proud of how you’re showing up every day.
Tolerations, Saying Yes/Saying No, and Your Everyday Habits
The simple question of “what are you tolerating in your life” can both excite you and scare you at the same time. When you examine it, you’re faced with things you’re going to want to change. Most of what causes us suffering in our lives is what we’re tolerating on a regular basis, so let’s change that by learning tools to say no AND yes in your life. This module will also cover what your daily habits are. Are you setting yourself up everyday to get to where you want to be going? Is what you’re doing now lining up with and creating a path to where you want to go? If not, we’ll fix that.
Boundaries and Hard Conversations
If you knew how to set boundaries and have those hard conversations, you probably would have done it by now. You’re smart and driven, so you would have checked it off the list at this point, right? In order for you to claim the life you want—whether it’s more balance, standing up for yourself, gaining more confidence, or having better relationships—you must have the tools to set (and follow through with) boundaries, as well as have tough, vulnerable conversations. Neither are easy, but it’s worse knowing you need to do it and continue to push it aside.
Letting Go and Receiving
In order to be the person who has hard conversations and sets boundaries, the person who honors her values like a BOSS, the person who claims her life, you need to get clear on what you need to let go of, as well as what you need to let in and receive. Maybe it’s letting go of old belief patterns that are keeping you stuck so you can adopt new ones that allow you to get what you want.
When you consciously let go of shit that’s holding you back, you’re better apt to let things in like money (yes, money!), better relationships, and other dreams and goals you have.
Before I started working with Andrea on work around courage, I was struggling with old patterns of fear, confidence, and connecting with others. I have big dreams personally and professionally and knew I needed the right coach and approach to help lead the way.
This work has cracked me open and helped me rediscover my courage, strength, faith and values. I’m so grateful for this foundation and the ability to incorporate it into my everyday life.
Through this work, I am now opening up more in my relationships, professionally and personally, and at the same time, I have set clear boundaries. I’m incorporating more fun and creativity in my days, and trusting my intuition. Andrea’s support and the tools I have received around this work in courage have given me the confidence I needed to move out of fear and step into courage.
- Nicole Indelicato
I believe your path is your purpose. All of us have the desire to want to live a life that matters, a life where we do things that matter, whether that’s creating art in any form, showing up as our truest self in our relationships, creating a movement, or finally standing up for ourselves after years of keeping quiet.
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
I want to thank you Andrea Owen for this class. I learned about my triggers (well, faced them), my masks, and well I can keep going on with the terminology but let me say this…. Most importantly I feel like a better person. A person I love. A person I wanted to be… But now I know I can and AM! Thank you again.
- Andrea Blakeslee
( your hellraising leader )
With 10 years experience, I help smart, high-achieving women get what they want. Whether that’s better relationships, going after what they desire, all the inner work to do both of those things, or creating better behaviors and coping mechanisms. Sometimes, it’s all of those things.
I’m a certified life coach with The Coaches Training Institute, as well as certified in The Daring Way™, a research-based modality established by Brené Brown. As a two-time author and podcaster with nearly 200 episodes, I live and breathe personal development and growth mindset.
I believe women have the power to change themselves, and thus make the world a better place. And I believe in you.
HOW IT WORKS
For the first two months we’ll focus on all four modules, with two weeks to digest each one. Since we’re starting with awareness (you can’t change what you don’t know isn’t working), these four modules will give you a clear picture on not only what you need to change, but also HOW you’ll do it.
Each module will be delivered via live calls (recordings will be available) starting February 27th. Every other week the calls will be at different times to accommodate different schedules.
Each week, starting from the beginning, you’ll have the opportunity to declare your commitments and action steps for that week. I’m excellent at spotting the too-high expectations women put on themselves, so I’ll help you set yourself up to win.
You can have all the knowledge, awareness, and information you need in order to change your life, but if you don’t commit to specific things you want to change, you’ll get nowhere. Raise Hell is all about action so that you can get to where you want to be.
Every other week we’ll declare our commitments and action steps. You’ll have easy, specific worksheets for this to push you out of your comfort zone and into the life you want.
What’s awareness and action without accountability? Sure, there are some people out there that are enormously self-disciplined, but for most of us the real work happens with compassionate but kick-ass accountability.
When you sign up for Raise Hell, you’ll have the option to be teamed up with 2 (or more) other class participants/Hellraisers. With my suggestions, you’ll create an accountability partnership that works for you (e.g. check-ins by phone or text) so that you’ll be much less likely to hide out, lose momentum, or quit. ANYTIME you want to do any of those things just mentioned, that is your inner-critic and fear getting in the way. Built in accountability group will alleviate this!
I had developed severe anxiety and the daily activities I once loved no longer were easy to accomplish. I felt like I wanted to do so much more every day but could barely get through the day without feeling like I was enough. My career was helping people feel good about their bodies but I could not push myself. At my breaking point I realized I was no longer helping myself succeed but rather holding myself back from growing. I relied on too many people to determine my own happiness.
The only hesitations I had about taking this class came with self-doubt and fear of disappointing myself. If I didn’t take this time to work on me then why would I add more stress? However, I realized I am most important in my life and it’s time to take charge of my own happiness.
My biggest takeaway has been learning how I tick and why I move the way I do. I’m allowed to feel my emotions but that taking the time to really open up to my closest friends and family allows me to grow and learn from my choices and experiences that way I keep moving forward.
I would recommend this to women in my life that go through the motions and ignore the reality of their emotions they’re facing daily at home, work, in relationships, and with themselves.
- Chelsea Moller
What to Expect Upon Sign Up
You’ll have two options upon sign up, and within those two options you can pay in full (best deal), or make 3 payments.
Option 1: The Raise Hell Group Program
Option 2: The Raise Hell Group Program PLUS 2 private sessions with Andrea and personalized signed copies of both of her books (52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life and How To Stop Feeling Like shit)
2. You’ll then be taken to a check-out page.
3. Once you’ve paid (either in full or made your first payment), you will either create a free Teachable account or log into your existing account. Teachable is where all of the class materials and resources will be available to you. I have a welcome video for you there and a pre-class worksheet to get you started.
4. You should then receive an email that will contain the following:
Including the weekly calls, about a minimum of 90 minutes per week. This all depends on how you work and how much time you spend in our private Facebook group. I can assure you, the more time you commit to this work and the more introspection you have, the more you will get out of it and the more you will see your life change for the better.
WOMEN, I BEG YOU: DO NOT STAY SAFE AND COMFORTABLE.
RAISE HELL IN YOUR LIFE BY RISING UP AND CLAIMING YOUR LIFE.
I’m feeling kinder to myself, more at peace, and more confident.
I believed I didn’t deserve the good things in my life, and so I was constantly self-sabotaging myself. I was stuck in a vicious cycle of trying to be a high-achiever, then believing I didn’t deserve the thing once I got it, then trying to be a high-achiever in another area to make up for it…make sense? I needed, and was READY FOR a straightforward, ACTION plan for my life.
I knew it was time, and it was safe, to dive into specific issues… body image, comparison, self-sabotage (I didn’t even know there was a name for this), worthiness, and shame.
Feeling like my body was directly tied to my worthiness.
Feeling like I was only one who experienced my particular sort of shame
Feeling guilty for taking a break and slowing down sometimes. Like, feeling lazy for just wanting to watch some Netflix and eat a few cookies here and there.
Feeling scared to take risks, because my inner critic shot them down pretty quickly
The community, the safe space, the sense of acceptance, naming and identifying my inner critic.. I just felt less alone. I was scared to talk to some of my friends about my deepest secrets, because I was scared that I’d be judged or shunned. The online group gave me a chance to test the waters. I got to share my story with a group of supportive, like-minded strangers, which then gave me the confidence to be more open and honest with the people closest to me.
I’m feeling different, for. SURE. I’m feeling less alone. I’m feeling kinder to myself, more at peace, and more confident. I’m way less intimidated around certain people than I used to be. That’s like…. kind of really an amazing feeling. Instead of my inner critic telling me that I’m not good enough for them, it’s instead telling me that I am just as good as they are, and just as deserving to share my ideas. Granted, she’s telling me this with shaking knees and a trembling voice, but she’s telling it to me.